God blesses children equally with gift when He creates them. They can live all of their lives with pleasure and prosperity due to their gift. This gift is their passion. The children living in an environment find and join the things, areas, subjects or the objects to satisfy their passion. Let’s call these things ‘subject’. This joining or attachment of the children becomes their first priority. They want to spend all of their time with their subject and try to find out the ways and purpose of their lives in them. They want to explore the secrets of their subjects that a common person cannot imagine about. Actually they love with their subjects and might have lost themselves in them. The children are very lucky and fortunate at this stage.
Parents have their own plans and priorities for the future of their children. Society has its own suggestions and recommendations for the success in their lives. They both guide them on the bases of their own experiences, trends of the time and availability of the opportunities. They want their children to follow the tracks that educational experts have made for the children’s success while Nature wants them to create their own tracks with curiosity, enthusiasm, excitement and dedication which are followed by their passion that Nature has blessed them for the purpose.
If the subjects of the children do not match the plans and priorities of the parents and the society, considering it poor and useless for the success of the children as compared to the areas they like obviously with earning point of view or other benefits, both discourage them and try to change the trend of their mind by authority. The children are weak in understanding and decisive power and are already seeking guidance from their parents and the society, being dependent have to go after their parents liking and do what the parents want against their own will. They fall in the state of confusion and lose their interest in their own subjects with already having no interest in the subjects their parents want. Sometimes parents and society do not understand the value of the attachment of the children with their subjects or don’t know how to switch the children from their subject to parent’s subjects.
Children work above the benefits and beyond the calculations of their parents and society for the subjects they like. They can achieve up to any level if their parents and the environment support them. If we compare the situation, what the children like versus what the parents want them to like, children used to wake up and run towards the subjects they like. On the other hand the parents had to wake them up and drag them to the subjects they like. Nature has set most competent teachers on the minds and hearts of the children while parents arrange teachers for the subjects they are not interested in that maybe competent and teaching well but the children might not be learning from them. They maybe present physically with the teachers but mentally might be dreaming their subjects or in the hell of confusion.
Consider someone who selects low benefit subjects and works to high level of excellence. One can be more beneficial in terms of status and in prosperity as well as the pleasure of liking the subject as compared to the one having subjects of high benefits but working without interest can never excel so can gain nothing.
If the children, by the support of parents and society, favours of the environment or somehow remain on the track of their own thoughts and follow the ways, Nature has described for them, may obtain high scales of merit and supreme level of quality. If they are fortunate enough to compliment their genetic intellectual with their passion they can make new records or set new standards of excellence for the world which is the peak of human quality and efforts.
In the end, I want to say that we can switch children’s attachment to our choice but it’s a very delicate process which can result either in our success or distraction of the children if not managed properly.
If parents think the children are going in wrong direction they should get attached with them as their friends, spend more and more time with them, listen their achievements and share their own experiences to support their positive acts without going against the subjects they like, convincing them and diverting them to the subjects they think beneficial for their children. When they show interest to parents’ subjects appreciating for their liking and then motivating them at every step. Rudeness and impatience can be a high potency poison in this process that will damage trust between parents and the children. They will not be interested any more in the subjects what their parents like.They will neither love their subjects nor those of the parents.. Conceivably the children will turn down to the common people from the blessed ones. Perhaps unconsciously the parents have deprived them of the gifts Nature had blessed them.